Comments on: Meltdown http://blog.johnlacey.net/meltdown/ Just another WordPress site Sat, 12 Feb 2011 11:12:27 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Jeb http://blog.johnlacey.net/meltdown/#comment-783 Jeb Wed, 15 Apr 2009 16:59:24 +0000 http://blog.johnlacey.net/?p=863#comment-783 As I said the other day John, I think we have a lot in common. Unfortunately, I don't come delivering the answers. I'm searching for purpose. I struggle with self-esteem. I seek approval. All of it and more. And I know how it can pile up against the door so high that it begins to feel you're stuck in that room. That place. I've been in that room myself. All I can say is that these moments - the breakdowns/breakthroughs - are critical. Essential to progress. Despite the pain that boils over at these times, and the fear and doubt it leads to, these moments are the turning points. Perhaps not THE turning point...but then, it may be THAT turning point doesn't exist. Rather, it's a dozen, or a hundred, little course corrections that eventually bring us onto the path. Our path. WIthout doubt, the most useful distinction I've made through my own process is that of being in the moment. Sounds trite, I know. But so much stress is created in the process of worrying over the future, your future, the future YOU. What will we do? How will we make a difference? What am I here to accomplish. Etcetera...All the while we're unable to enjoy where we are. I've not got it mastered just yet, but I try very hard to take notice of what I have in my life today. To appreciate it all. And to believe that despite the fact that things aren't perfect as they are today, it's all playing a key role in my growth into that person I'm becoming. The one I can be satisfied with. And though it may be hard to see how these things that make up my life today will lead me to the life I want tomorrow, trust is the only way. As I said the other day John, I think we have a lot in common. Unfortunately, I don’t come delivering the answers. I’m searching for purpose. I struggle with self-esteem. I seek approval. All of it and more.

And I know how it can pile up against the door so high that it begins to feel you’re stuck in that room. That place. I’ve been in that room myself.

All I can say is that these moments – the breakdowns/breakthroughs – are critical. Essential to progress. Despite the pain that boils over at these times, and the fear and doubt it leads to, these moments are the turning points. Perhaps not THE turning point…but then, it may be THAT turning point doesn’t exist. Rather, it’s a dozen, or a hundred, little course corrections that eventually bring us onto the path. Our path.

WIthout doubt, the most useful distinction I’ve made through my own process is that of being in the moment. Sounds trite, I know. But so much stress is created in the process of worrying over the future, your future, the future YOU. What will we do? How will we make a difference? What am I here to accomplish. Etcetera…All the while we’re unable to enjoy where we are.

I’ve not got it mastered just yet, but I try very hard to take notice of what I have in my life today. To appreciate it all. And to believe that despite the fact that things aren’t perfect as they are today, it’s all playing a key role in my growth into that person I’m becoming. The one I can be satisfied with. And though it may be hard to see how these things that make up my life today will lead me to the life I want tomorrow, trust is the only way.

]]> By: Ali http://blog.johnlacey.net/meltdown/#comment-782 Ali Wed, 15 Apr 2009 16:52:37 +0000 http://blog.johnlacey.net/?p=863#comment-782 I followed the link to this blog post at the same moment as I was rolling this poem around in my head, and thinking about what it meant to me. I think that fate & oracles are a load of magical-thinking bollocks, but still- every time I open this book of 13th century Sufi poetry, it tells me something I really, really need to know at the moment I'm reading it (right now, I need to know a lot about grief, and the act of helping people and being open to being helped). I don't know how that works, but it does. It's a long poem and I don't fancy typing it all out at this time of the night, but you can find the text here: http://www.allaboutjazz.com/php/article.php?id=21985 "All medicine wants is pain to cure. And don't just ask for one mercy. Let them flood in. Let the sky open under your feet." Being open to asking for help isn't just one of the most profound strengths available, it is a gift to the people you are asking for help from. Don't be afraid to do it. I think that by putting up this blog post you're off to a strong start. Good luck in the beautiful & difficult & (in my life) constantly on-going journey to figure out who & why & how you are in the world. I followed the link to this blog post at the same moment as I was rolling this poem around in my head, and thinking about what it meant to me. I think that fate & oracles are a load of magical-thinking bollocks, but still- every time I open this book of 13th century Sufi poetry, it tells me something I really, really need to know at the moment I’m reading it (right now, I need to know a lot about grief, and the act of helping people and being open to being helped). I don’t know how that works, but it does. It’s a long poem and I don’t fancy typing it all out at this time of the night, but you can find the text here: http://www.allaboutjazz.com/php/article.php?id=21985

“All medicine wants
is pain to cure.

And don’t just ask for one mercy.
Let them flood in. Let the sky open under your feet.”

Being open to asking for help isn’t just one of the most profound strengths available, it is a gift to the people you are asking for help from. Don’t be afraid to do it. I think that by putting up this blog post you’re off to a strong start. Good luck in the beautiful & difficult & (in my life) constantly on-going journey to figure out who & why & how you are in the world.

]]> By: Colin Campbell http://blog.johnlacey.net/meltdown/#comment-781 Colin Campbell Wed, 15 Apr 2009 13:03:07 +0000 http://blog.johnlacey.net/?p=863#comment-781 You are brave to be so honest. There are many people who struggle with similar issues at many stages of our lives. All pretty normal. Just not widely discussed, especially by men. Take care. You are brave to be so honest. There are many people who struggle with similar issues at many stages of our lives. All pretty normal. Just not widely discussed, especially by men. Take care.

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